When we delete someone from our telephones, from our social media, we're utilizing AI to actually remove them from our reality.
It could be that way, depends on going on. Yes, but it could be that way.
It's an interesting tool, Because if you want to kind of allow that mirror to move on.
It works for me.
All right! You can use it that way.
Nothing personal, you know, yes!
Well, it is personal, but that's all right!
It doesn't mean it's negatively personal.
When we say it's not necessarily negatively personal, what we mean is the idea that
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is remove yourself from someone's life to show them the consequences of the choices that are making and how their choices may be vibrational incompatible with you
So that you give them the option to decide whether or not they wish to change their choices and allow the relationship to continue, or not.
So it can actually be the most loving thing you can do.
Thank you for that!
And to you good day
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We are excited to speak with you as well.
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For the last four years, I've been heartbroken over this guy.
Heartbroken over this guy?
Over a guy, yes!
Heartbroken about what?
He doesn't want to be with me, but sometimes he does.
Then why would you want to be with him?
Why would you want to attract somebody in your life that doesn't wish to be with you?
What are you doing to yourself?
Every time I stop thinking about him, then he comes in to my life again.
To test you to see if you're willing to give up your power to something that is what you prefer?
And yet you keep swallowing it to be?
Why are you doing that to yourself?
How about being heartbroken over what you're doing to yourself?
I think I am.
I know you are.
But I just get really emotional about it.
Of course you do,
Because you are feeling the result of what you believe to be true about yourself,
But you can't wallow in the feeling
You have to get in touch with what you believe to be true about yourself
to understand what it is you are doing
What it is you keep choosing to do
OK, I think probably I believe that I'm not lovable, or something like that.
But even if I know that,
I'm not sure how to change that.
Well, let's examine it more specifically
You may be aware of the fact that you believe you're not lovable,
But you haven't gotten down to the root of
why that seems logical for you to believe.
Why does that seem believable.
That's another belief system.
Why does it seem believable that you're not lovable
Because the people I love don't love me.
The people that you love don't love you.
But again, all you're doing is repeating the pattern in that statement
Of attracting reflections of what you already feel to be true about yourself.
Which means you don't love yourself.
So what else could you possibly attract if that's how you feel about yourself
Other than people who will reflect to you your inability to love yourself
Which is what they're doing
You can't be surprised by that if you don't love yourself.
That's what you would get.
I'm not surprise by it
I'm just not sure how to change it.
I'm telling you how, but you're not really paying attention to the idea.
Understand that if you know you don't love yourself.
I'm asking you another question.
Why would you buy into that is being true that you don't love yourself
Or that you can't love yourself
or you’re not worthy of loving yourself.
Why would that seem logical to believe in.
Because of the feeling, I guess.
Sometimes I love myself.
Sometimes like when?
Give me an example
When I rock climbing
and I feel like I get into the gamma states
And in that state, you can feel that you love yourself.
So let me ask you a very important question.
What's the difference that you're making in your definitions between loving yourself when you rock climb and other circumstances in your life.
What difference are you making there In the idea of who you are in different situations.
I feel powerful and I feel like I can trust myself and
And why can't you bring that to other circumstances in your life,
What beliefs do you have that say,
I cannot feel this and know this same thing to be true in this situation,
Even though I feel it in this situation.
What differences are you defining there to be between the two situation
I feel...Okay, so...
Stop saying you feel, I know you feel
But what are you defining to be true?
I have a definition that
to be lovable you have to prove yourself materially.
What does that mean?
Make a lot of money
Why do you believe that to be true?
Do you believe that to be true?
No. But the people I love believe it to be true.
You're not them. They're not you.
They are not living your life
Why do you have to believe as they do?
It just seems true?
Why do you have to believe as they do
In order to respect yourself
In order to love yourself.
Why do you have to believe as they do
Do you understand that if they are imposing that kind of a belief system on you
That they may think they love you.
But it's not love that they're expressing
Do you understand that by accepting what they are imposing on you as a belief system that that is not love.
Therefore, you think that by going along with their beliefs, You are being loved,
but you're not.
You're just being controlled.
That's not love.
So you're under the misguided miss assumption
that buying into their beliefs means that they’re loving you
No they're not
Well, it's just this one person.
I don't care how many people it is
It's just one person that I want to love me.
Why? Why do you care?
Because I like how I feel when I'm with him.
So what you're saying is,
Even though there might actually be someone out there who would actually love you even more
Even more perfectly and really love you.
You're the hold on to someone who doesn't really love you in the way that you prefer to be love.
Just because it's about oh, I don't know 82% of it.
You're gonna to settle for that
And prevent, block the passage of, block the arrival of someone out there
Who might actually be able to love you 100% for who you are,
Is that what you're actually willing to do it yourself?
Just because you think you can't attract someone else any better than this.
Is that what you're saying?
Nod your head
I don't think I can attract someone better unless I'm better, and I feel
And when you allow yourself to recognize
That someone who exhibit 82% of the traits that you prefer
Isn't the person that you prefer
You will then allow him to get out of the way
And allow the other person to come in.
You're the one blocking love from your life that could be there
Because you're not willing to be strong enough to know
that you deserve better than just some of it.
Some of it is not what you prefer.
Yet your holding on to it
Because you don't believe anything else can come in
And the reason it doesn't come in,
is because your blocking the way with someone who is only partially what you prefer.
You're the one jamming the lanes.
Let him flow off
Let him flow by
Because whoever does show up,
you won't care who it is
Because they will feel correct.
Let me ask you a question this way,
Have you ever had any other relationships before this one.
Well, how did this one come about, if you didn't let the other ones go
Obviously isn't it?
So what's so different about this
All you've done is attract to yourself something to test yourself to see
If you're willing to put up with something that is a half measure
看你能否与一个“将就的情人”合得来（put up with忍受）
As opposed to standing firm in what you know to be true for you that you prefer,
And letting your life flow that to you.
You're actually willing to shortchange yourself
If it happened before that you let someone else go their way.
Because something more came in
What's so difficult about doing it again
If you understand that something else can come in if you don't block it from doing so.
Just like it did before
I feel I'm getting to too old.
OH! How old are you?
I beg your pardon?
Yes, but on this planet, that's old.
Excuses, excuses, excuses
That are not real.
You have a saying on your planet that is very wise.
Fear, F E A R
False Evidence Appearing Real
F虚假 E证据 A显示为 R真实
False evidence appearing real.
The fact that your 30
The fact that you're on earth.
The fact that a lot of people say,
Well, that biological clock is ticking.
You'd best married soon
Or you're going to be a dried up (有谁听出来了)
Is absolute nonsense.
Now, yes, we understand is a collective consensus reality.
There are certain things that you've agreed to with the collective consensus
That you all abide by
that are general, very general true for a lot of you
That doesn't mean that every single aspect of that has to apply to you individually,
And if you simply allow yourself to really fully be yourself,
Then whatever it is actually needs to be in your life
That is relevant to be in your life
Will be in your life
Because it cannot be not in your life
When we talk about again excitement being complete kit that's what we mean
Everything is relevant will happen.
There is only one exception to this.
You've made all your agreements
You've made all your appointments
If you don't worry about them.
You'll keep them
The things that need to happen will happen in perfect timing by the agreement You already made
In this life and before this life about this life.
The only way to miss your agreements is to spend your time and energy
Worrying you will miss the agreements
That how you miss the timing
By spending time and energy worrying you'll miss your timing
That's the only way to miss your time
If you don't worry about missing your timing.
You cannot miss your timing
OK! I understand that.
Maybe you do, and maybe you don't, we'll see.
I heard you say that before.
Aren't there multiple infinite reality,
So the agree and appointment in whatever
Aren't they different across all the different realities?
Some are very slightly different and some are massively different,
But you still get to choose which one you prefer.
That's how you fit into the niche and the path that is you by being your full self,
And knowing that whatever has to unfold that is relevant for you
As a unique consciousness and a unique perspective
Will be exactly what you need
to get a reflection of the fulfillment that you create in your state of being
So the other version of me, they're not really me, right?
NO! They're not.
They are other people entirely.
OK! I wonder about that.
Does that answer that question?
I've been working...
I feel very bad because I work for my father
And I feel like, you know, I didn't get like a independent job.
He's been supporting me to create a website, a social media
Yes? Does that excites you?
It does really excite me,
But there's something about it that is just been driving me crazy.
What drives you crazy?
Fear about what?
I just feel guilty about succeeding
Fear about what?
You feel guilty about what?
About the possibility of succeeding
What is success
If at first you don't succeed,
To be that definition that works for you.
No one else will have the same definition of success.
I guess I'm scare of failing, it's one or the other.
What is failure
Not being yourself
Do you really have to be yourself a hundred percent of the time before you're successful at being yourself ?
No! No you do not.
But here is the paradoxical irony
When you're okay with not being your true self a hundred percent of the time
You are being your true self a hundred percent of the time
Because you know you're going through a process
And it's okay to go through the process
And it's okay to know you're not always at your best
And that's okay.
It's when you start keeping judgment and guilt upon yourself
That you're going in the other direction.
It's not because you're not always doing exactly the thing you would like to do,
It's because of your attitude toward that experience
That determines whether you're successful or not.
So if you're all right with sometimes going.
Oh well, you know, I took a left turn here, it's not what I intended,
But all right, I learn something from it.
I'm not always one hundred percent of my best,
But that's okay
Because I know that it is my intention to be,
And therefore by acknowledging that it's okay to have gone down that path
Even if it wasn't what I preferred.
I know that, overall, I'm okay
And I have a self-correcting self guiding system
That will always course correct and bring me back to where I prefer to be.
That is success,
Not because you achieve a goal,
Not because something comes to fruition in the way you thought it would
Success is being okay with yourself at every moment,
Even when you're not okay with yourself
If you keep judgment and guilt upon yourself
That's what stops you from being a success,
Because many many people in your reality who you would look at it go：
Oh, that's a very, very successful person
That's their secret
Is they don't give up,
They don't get down on themselves
For suddenly maybe being out of alignment with who they prefer to be.
They learn from it.
They get back into alignment and say
Let's move on
Because the process of your entire life.
The process is the point.
The journey is the destination
You're not trying to get anywhere
All you're doing is attempting to be more of yourself to the best of your ability
And if you're doing your best, that's all you need to do,
And that's a success
Does this help you
Do you feel a little bit more relaxed about yourself.
I do, I do
Then that is the measure of success
Thank you, Bashar!
You are welcome