2019-03-24

 

 

Children are imitators. If you sometimes find something in your child which you don't like, look within yourself, you will find it there; it is reflected in the child.

 

孩子是模仿者。如果你有时候发现自己不喜欢孩子身上的某些东西,往你自己内在看,你就会发现你也有,它被映照在了孩子身上。

 

The child is only a sensitive response. The child is simply there imbibing you, repeating you, imitating you. So if something wrong appears in the child, rather than putting it right there, put it right in yourself, and you will be surprised: the child drops it automatically.

 

孩子只是一个敏锐的回应。孩子只是在吸收你,重复你,模仿你。所以如果孩子身上出现了什么不对,与其将其纠正,不如纠正你的不对,你会惊讶的发现:孩子自动将其放下了。

 

The child does not only depend on the mother for physical food, he depends on her in every way -- for spiritual food also. So if you become silent, the child will follow it, he will learn it unknowingly; if you become meditative, he will become meditative.

 

孩子不只是在生理食物上依赖母亲,他各方面也都依赖母亲——在灵性的食物上也是。所以如果你变得宁静,孩子也会效仿,他不知不觉的就会学会;如果你变得静心,他也会变得静心。

 

Whenever parents come to me and they complain about their children, they are not aware of what they are doing, because my own observation is that if something is wrong with the child, it must have come from the parents.

 

每当有父母来找我,跟我抱怨他们的孩子,他们并没有意识到自己在做什么,因为我自己的观察是,如果孩子身上出了什么错,它一定是来自父母。

 

It is almost always so: ninety-nine percent of it comes from the parents; the smaller the child, the more is the percentage.

 

几乎总是如此:它 99% 是来自父母。孩子越小,比例就越大。

 

When the child becomes a little bigger and starts moving in society, then of course he learns from others too, but in the ultimate account, almost ninety percent always comes from the parents.

 

当孩子长大一点,开始进入社会时,当然他也从别人身上学习,但总之,几乎 90% 始终是来自父母。

 

So whatsoever you want the child to become, be. Be silent, be compassionate, be loving, be joyous, and you will be surprised that just by your being that, the child starts imbibing those qualities. And this will be the greatest thing for him, if he can imbibe silence.

 

所以无论你想孩子变得怎样,你先这样。变得宁静,变得慈悲,富有爱心,开心,你会惊讶,仅仅是你自己这样,孩子就开始吸收那些品质了。对他来说这是最难能可贵的,如果他能吸收宁静。

 

From: OSHO Don’t Bite My Finger, Look Where I'm Pointing

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