The person is having an issue with living their passion and moving on in their life
because of a regretful memory of the past mistake and a very painful period of time in their life
And every time they try to follow their passion, they start feeling bad and holding back from living in their highest potential because of that memory
Then that means they're not using the mistake to learn something from. They're not validating it as an opportunity to learn a lesson that will move them forward.
They are invalidating the experience as if it didn't belong
When obviously if it happened, they could learn something from it and allow it to belong in their lives
They're rejecting a portion of themselves by not validating it for the lesson it could teach them
Once they validate it and learn the lesson, they will be free to move on. They will stop rejecting that portion of their lives as if it didn't belong
I've noticed that part of the journey seems to be about getting to a place where you can let go off thoughts that are bringing you down in a sense
That's ultimately what is involved, you let go off the beliefs that are
Let go of the beliefs that generate the thoughts, yes!
The thoughts go with it. The feelings go with it. The behavior goes with it. The experience goes with it.
That's what we mean when we say the belief is the blueprint of all of it.
So when someone says, I can't seem to stop, because I'm ruminating, I'm constantly...
Go back to the motivational mechanism.
They don't choose to do what they do unless they believe it somehow benefits them.
They need to find the belief that makes it seem as if it benefits them
when they know it doesn't.
So regret is really about thinking that you did something wrong and that you can't fix it or the hopelessness kind of thing?
It's going back to the concept of lack of worthiness, of invalidating the self
Thinking you're supposed to be so perfect, you can never make a mistake.
Mistakes are how you learn
So they're not really mistakes
You have a saying on your planet that is actually very wise
Good judgment comes from making mistakes, making mistakes comes from bad judgment
So bad judgment leads to mistakes which lead to good judgment.
That's the process
So just reframing a lot of these ideas that we have that keep people in the negative cycles in their brain that they are trying to stop.
Yes! Reframing is the key.
That's why we say you need to understand the definitions you're applying to things and choose different definitions
Choosing different definitions is just as real as any definition that's already been there
and that's the same thing as reframing
You reframe your reality from a new perspective, from a new definition, and then you'll experience it differently.
You are free to do this,
So I've noticed that there are individuals in their 20s, let's say that, they feel so strongly the things that happen to them in their childhood.
But you have to understand and remember that many humans are coming from not having been given the tools to understand what's happening to them when they go through those changes.
Therefore, they have to attract in their live the circumstances that will give them the tools, the understanding, so they can deal with those things in an easier way
Is it also the part of our growth process,
I mean in terms of aging,
You know like, when you're in your 20s, you're processing a lot of stuff from your childhood in your teens and then
When your 30s, you start recognizing that: Hey! I'm the only one that really...
You know, you're not trying to please so much!
Yes, in general
But that's just what's become your human pattern.
It's not inevitable. It's not a given that it has to happen that way.
It's not human nature. It's human learning that creates that pattern
So we can accelerate this for younger people
Do you not yourself already recognize that much younger people in this day and age seem extremely mature?
They definitely seems like they can do things that we couldn't do.
That's an indication that it can be accelerated regardless of the age
So that's actually lovely
Because that means that all that we've gone through in prior generations has allowed each generation to accelerate in certain ways are seeing the benefits of that in the generation to come.
That is the gift you give to future generations.
They don't have to go through the same thing
Yes, it is.