【新】【萨古鲁】《谈婚姻——有意识地选择》－如是說999

原创萨古鲁sadhguru® ishayoga 2020-04-22

Questioner: My name is Ananth.My question isabout marriage,divorce.

I’m married。

发问者：我叫Ananth,我的问题是关于婚姻的，离婚。我已结婚。

Sadhguru: No, no, they are two differentthings (Laughter & Applause).

萨古鲁：不，不，那是两回事。

Questioner: …marriage，what I see today is many youngsters likemany of them they don’t want to marry and few of them who marry，there are occasions where they are getting divorced;so would youlike to throw some light on this situation Sadhguru?

发问者：...婚姻，如今我看到，许多年轻人他们很多人不想结婚，而少数结了婚的人，他们当中也有离了婚的。萨古鲁，你可以对这些现象说些什么吗？

Sadhguru: See, you need to understand theinstitution of marriage.it’s about bringing a certain sanctity to the simplebasic needs that every human being has.there are physical needs,there arepsychological needs,there are economic needs,emotional needs,social needs,varietyof needs.To fulfill all these things we set up an institution called marriage.whereall these can be conducted in a sensible manner,otherwise if we did it on thestreets like every other creature,it would turn ugly for us.And we will feelnot good about it.So,to bring some sense of organization,some aesthetic,somestability,because man and woman coming together naturally brought fresh life.

萨古鲁：看，你需要了解一下婚姻制度，它是为了带来某种神圣。每个人都有一些基本需求，有身体上的需求，有心理上的需求，有经济需求，情感需求，社会需求，各种各样的需求，为了满足这些需求，我们建立了一个制度称为婚姻。这些需求可以以明智的方式来处理，否则，我们像其他生物一样在大街上，那会变得太丑陋，我们也会感觉不好。因此，带来某些配置安排，一些美感，一些稳定性，因为男人和女人在一起自然地会带来全新的生命。

It is...compared to any other creature,it isthe most helpless life which needs maximum amount of support.Youcould leave a puppy on the street;as long as he gets food, he grows up into agood dog,no problem.But not so with a human being;he doesn’t need just physicalsupport,he needs variety of support and above all the stable situation.Whetherthere should be marriage in society or not one will debate when they areeighteen.because physical body is asking for freedom,all right.At that timeeverybody questions –is marriage really needed,why can’t we just live whicheverway we want?

这是... 相对于与其他生物，这是最无助的生命，这需要最大程度的支持。你可以把一只小狗扔在大街上，只要它得到食物，它就会长成一条好狗。这没问题，但是人类却不一样，他不仅需要物质上的支持，还需要各种各样的支持，最需要的是稳定的状态。不管这个社会是否需要婚姻，当他们十八岁的时候就都会辩论，因为物质身体在呼唤自由。好吧，那时每个人都会问，婚姻是否真的需要，为什么我们不能随心所欲地生活？

But when you are three years of age youvalued marriage immensely,a stable marriage immensely.Isn’t it so?Yes or no? againwhen you become forty-five, fifty you’re hundred percent for marriage betweenand eighteen and thirty-five you’re questioning the whole process (Laughter& Applause),okay?Because where the physical body isdominant,at that time if you give in to that then it will question everyinstitution.this is hormone fired freedom okay (Laughter).Your intelligence hasbeen hijacked by hormones,so you question the fundamentals of everything.I’m not saying marriage is the thing,but doyou have a better alternative?If you have a better alternative, damn themarriage,but you have not come up with a better alternative,because a stablesituation is a must for a child.Once you have a child it’s a twenty yearproject (Laughter)Your whims and fancies will change,your emotions will change;ifthat is what it is, don’t get into such situations.It’s not compulsory foreverybody to get married,it’s good young.you were saying people are thinkingwhether to get married.I’m glad it is not necessary for everybody,but if youget into it and if you especially if you get into children you must understand,it’sa minimum twenty year project whether you like it or you don’t like it.Otherwiseyou shouldn’t get into those projects,you don’t walk into a project, drop ithalf way and walk away, isn’t it?

当你三岁的时候，你非常重视婚姻，一段非常稳定的婚姻，难道不是吗？是不是？再一次，当你45、50岁的时候，你百分百肯定婚姻。在18至35岁之间，你在质疑整个过程，对吗？因为那时受物质身体主导，那时如果你屈服于它，然后就会质疑每个制度，这就是由荷尔蒙激发的自由，好吧。你的智能被荷尔蒙绑架，所以你质疑每件事的根本，我不是说就只有婚姻，但是你有更好的替代方法吗？如果你有更好的选择，去他的婚姻，但你还没有找到更好的替代。因为对于孩子来说必须有一个稳定的环境，一旦有了孩子，这就是20年的项目，你的异想天开和幻想会改变，你的情感会改变。如果就是这这样，不要陷入这种情况，不是说每个人都必须要结婚。现在的年轻人很棒，你是说人们在思考是否要结婚，我很高兴这不是每个人都必需要的。但是如果你投入进去，然后如果你，尤其是当你有孩子时，你必须要了解，这是一个至少20年的项目。无论你喜欢还是不喜欢，否则，就不应该启动这些项目。你不能开始一个项目，将其做到一半就溜之大吉，不是吗？

Juhi Chawla: Yes.

Juhi Chawla：是的

It’s your choice but at least chooseconsciously.You don’t have to get married because everybody is getting married,youdon’t have to talk about marriage and divorce in same breath as if they cometogether (Laughter).This is a completely an American idea,you’re thinking ofmarriage and divorce together nobody thought of divorce in this country tillrecently, isn’t it?So, if it happens,if somethinghappens something truly went wrong between two people and they have to separatethat will any way inevitably happen.You don’t have to plan it at the time ofwedding (Laughter).why should you ever talk about marriage and divorce in onebreath?It's a crime.

这是你的选择，但至少要有意识地作出选择，你不必因为每个人都在结婚而结婚，你不需要同时讨论婚姻和离婚，即使它们是一起发生的，这时典型美国式的观念。你把结婚和离婚看成一体，在这个国家近期才有人想到离婚，不是吗？那么，如果这发生了，如果发生了一些事，两个人之间确实有了点问题，然后他们不得不分开，那总是不可避免地会发生的，但也没有必要在结婚时就计划这个吧。为什么你总要把结婚和离婚拿来一起讨论呢？这是罪行。

Love&Grace

爱与恩典