One of the greatest things you can do for your relationships is to become self aware and self responsible. This means that you don’t depend on others for your happiness. It also means that you check in with yourself before you agree to do anything, and if you do agree to something you embrace it gracefully because you understand it was your choice.
If you take the time to do those two simple things, you will move beyond resentment. Since resentment creates anger, resistance, and separation between you and others, making choices that are in line with what you really wish to do helps you show up for others with an open heart from a place of love, safety, and connection, which can only support and heal your relationships. Further, being responsible for your own happiness and choices frees others from the pressure of trying to figure out how you really feel. Your self awareness and self responsibility opens the door for true communication, and for actions and responses to be based upon that truth.
The days of martyred service are over, Dear Ones. Making sure your efforts honour and empower everyone involved will pave the way for the new template of joyful service, which will serve everyone much better than ever before on your planet. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young