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2019-12-27

The holiday season can be stressful for many of you. Due to its hectic nature and demands (many of them self imposed) it is common for people to get out of balance. That, combined with being around family members who may still be living by old conditioning and belief systems that do not match who you are and whose presence may very quickly bring to the surface unresolved hurts, is a recipe for getting triggered and reactive. Most enlightening human beings later feel great remorse for having that response and can be quite hard on themselves, indeed.

节日对你们许多人来说可以是有压力的。出于它繁忙的性质和各种要求（许多是自我强加的），很正常人们会失衡。这，加上处于可能依旧根据旧的条件和信念体系（并不匹配你的所是）而活的人周围，他们的存在可能会非常快地把未被解决的伤痛带到表面，会引起触发和自发性反应。大多数开明的人稍后会对产生那个反应感到很后悔，会对自己非常严厉

If you did get triggered during the holidays, the first thing to do is to simply forgive yourself. Understand this is a part of you that is seeking your love and compassion. What does that part of you need from you? Take the time to sit with it, to love it, to reassure it, to give it compassion and a safe space to be heard. The last thing that part of you needs is for you to be berating yourself. It needs your love and guidance, and that is well within your capability to give to yourself.

如果你在节日被触发，第一件事就是去宽恕自己。明白这是你的一部分在寻求你的爱与同情心。你的那个部分需要你什么？花时间与它同坐，去爱它，去安抚它，给予它同情心和一个安全的空间可以被聆听。你的那个部分最不需要的就是你斥责自己。它需要你的爱和指引，你能够做到

Taking the time to tend to yourself first, with love and compassion, is the first step to being able to keep your balance during future holidays. Next, examine how you might have allowed yourself to get out of balance. Did you take on more than you should have? Did you over give and not allow yourself to receive assistance? What did you take on that really wasn’t necessary? How could you have improved your self care? Now is the ideal time to reexamine how you handle holidays and to move them into a better balance.

先花时间照顾好自己，伴随着爱与同情心，是你在节日期间保持平衡的第一步。接下来，检查你如何在让自己失衡。你是否承担的比你应该的要多？你是否付出了太多，没有让自己接收协助？你拾起了哪些真的没有必要的东西？你如何能改进你的自我关怀？现在是理想的时间去重新检查你如何面对节日并让它们进入一个更好的平衡

If you announce now how you will be changing things up for the next holidays, people will have plenty of time to adjust to the change and will not be shocked when the time comes. It’s important to shift with how your family has grown. Are there new members of the family who can become part of your traditions and assist? Have children grown to be older and can now help more? Ask people how they would like to contribute. You might be surprised to realize there’s more help available to you than you realized now that you are open to the help. How could you make holidays more manageable and more joyful for everyone involved, including you? What traditions are lovely and enjoyed by all that you wish to keep?

如果你现在宣布你会为下一个节日如何改变，人们会有大量的时间去适应改变，会在时间到来的时候不会被震惊。伴随着你家人的成长程度转变很重要。是否有着新的家庭成员可以成为传统和协助的一部分？是否有孩子已经长大，现在可以帮忙？问问他们想要如何帮忙。你可能会惊讶于有着更多的帮助，比起你现在意识到的，一旦你向帮助敞开。你如何让节日更加容易管理，对每个人来说更加喜悦，包括你？什么传统是有爱的、令人享受的，你希望能够保留？

Last of all, take a moment to make a strategy on new ways you can respond if people do the things that you find difficult in future holiday get togethers. Write them down and leave them where you will find them next year, because humans have a tendency to just want to move on and forget. When you have a plan you won’t get caught off guard when those triggers occur and you will be able to respond in brand new ways because you will be prepared.

最后，花点时间策划一个新的方式去反应，如果有人做了你认为难以和他/她相处的事情。把它们写下来，把它们放在你会在新的一年里看到的地方，因为人类倾向于“过去”并忘记。当你有着一个计划，你不会措手不及，当那些触发发生，你就能够在新的方式中响应，因为你会是准备充分的

Dear Ones, please do not beat yourselves up if you feel you could have handled things better. Use your regret to create new strategies that better serve everyone involved. Apologize if necessary. Accept apologies if you receive them. Stay focused on the apology if given or received as a loving connection point and resist getting drawn back into the same old issue if it starts to go there again. Remember, as you change the music, the dance steps change.

亲爱的，请不要斥责自己，如果你感到你本可以更好地处理。使用你的后悔来创造新的策略，来更好地服务每个涉及之人。如果有必要，道歉。如果你收到道歉，接收。专注于道歉，如果给予道歉或接收道歉是一个有爱的连接点，不要返回到同样的旧问题中，如果势头又开始朝向它了。记住，随着你改变音乐，舞步也会改变

Please know your families are where the conditioning and belief systems you are releasing and healing beyond were born, and because of that they are often the last territory you master. Be kind and gentle with yourselves, forgive yourselves and others for not knowing better, and know you can always choose differently next time. This is all part of your evolution and the triggers serve to shine a spotlight on where you need to direct your love and nurturing for yourself the most, and that is a wonderful and empowering thing. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young

请明白，你的家族\家人\家庭是你在释放和疗愈超越的“条件和信念体系”诞生的地方，因此，他们经常是你需要精通的最后领地。对自己友善和温柔，宽恕自己和他人，知晓你总是可以在下一次不一样地选择。这都是你进化的一部分，触发作为一个聚光灯服务，照亮你需要将你的爱和滋养导向的地方，这是一件奇妙和授权的事情。~大天使加百利

翻译：Nick Chan