A person who is very important to me is going through trouble—suffering, disease and divorce.
I prayed for this person but the suffering still continues.
Are there other ways I can help?
I can give you some suggestions.
First of all, do not see them as being weak. Do not send them your pity, for you are only reinforcing the negativity.
Secondly, understand that every individual is choosing their own reality.
Now, you can suggest things to them that can allow them to change, but you cannot force them to change.
You could share with them many of the principles we have discussed this day of your time, but their belief system may not be able to absorb it.
What you must first learn is that you cannot take responsibility for them.
The best way to help them is to be completely responsible to them in the following way.
First of all, acting like you believe in their ability to change in a positive direction and do not see them as trapped.
Secondly, redefine what they are going through.
Recognize that they may be suffering, they may be in misery, but also recognize that obviously they felt they had the strength to go through it.
So see them first for the strength they must contain in order to have attracted such great limitation in their lives.
Act in an uplifting way around them, be a shining example of the kind of energy you would prefer.
Empathy is uplifting, but sympathy is reinforcing the negative.
So in other words, if you are hovering around that individual while they are being miserable, going, [greatly exaggerated]
"Oh, yes... you are a very miserable person. Yes, you are!'
then you are only fulfilling the saying that you have upon your planet, that "misery loves company." Then you are both being miserable together.
那你就应验了你们星球上的一句话“Misery Loves Company同病相怜”，然后你们就抱在一起痛哭吧！
Sometimes when individuals in your society are being miserable and you choose to be happy, they may think you're being "cold and unfeeling."
Don't be afraid of that.
you can tell them that you love them dearly.
In fact, you love them so much that you refuse to reinforce their misery.
Suggest to them changes of environment, changes of attitude, that will change the entire effect.
Get them excited about something.
Get them excited about themselves in a new direction.
But if they don't take your suggestions, that's their choice.
You can say, "Well, alright, if you still want to be miserable, we'll still be around, ready and willing to play with you when you' re ready to change."
You can remind them that if they want their reality to change the easiest way to do that is to change themselves.
So be a light, a radiant example of the kind of joy they can feel too by seeing it reflected from you.
Otherwise, all you're doing is playing "mortician" observing over the death of the individual... "How sad!"
Does that help you?
Thank you. Starting tomorrow I'll be a shining example.
Oh, alright. Thank you. But what's wrong with right now?
Yes...from this instant!
Oh, thank you very much.