译者：笑笑 ^_^ 学
2020-06-08
https://v.qq.com/x/page/z0978fqzfw6.html
问：
Another question that comes up has to do with self worth.
还有一个提问，是关于“自我价值”的
Many people find on their journey that they think they had achieved a certain level of self valuation
很多人，在走过一定的人生之旅后，都会觉得：自己已经达到了一定程度的自我价值的认可
And then they will find a circumstance comes up that triggers them to devalue themselves or feel that they have really not accomplished a full recognition of their self-worth.
但是，随后发生的一些情况，却“打脸”了他们这种想法，触发他们否认自己，或者，认为自己并没有真正完全地认可自我的价值
巴夏：
The first and most paradoxical thing to remember when confronted with issues of lack of self worth is first and foremost to own it as a choice that you made in experiencing that idea
当面对“自我价值缺乏”的问题时，你首先需要记住的一点，也是最为矛盾的一点，就是：恰是因为“你选择”体验自我价值缺失，才会让你有这样的经历
Because the second you own it, instead of regretting that's coming up. You are empowered to deal with it, empowered to do something to change it
因为，就在“你接受”（拥有）事实的那一刻，而不是“悔恨”问题的发生，那么，你就是在赋予自己能力（赋能），去处理问题，去做一些能带来改变的事情
So it's only the denial of the fact that it comes up, the resistance to the fact that it comes up that actually makes it stick around and reoccur
但是，如果你否认已经发生的事实，抗拒已经出现的问题，那么，你就只会让这种情况“一而再，再而三”地发生
Remember that many people even when they deal with certain issues of self-worth may test themselves to make sure they have changed.
请记住：很多人，在处理某些关于自我价值的问题时，他们可能会测试自己，从而确定自己是否已经改变
So if you test yourself and trigger yourself by attracting a situation that makes you face the idea that you may not still allow yourself to feel worthy, then you are still reacting the same old way,
所以，当你发现自己吸引来某种境况，可能会让你无法再感受到自我的价值，并且，你仍然以往日的方式，应对这种情况
You're testing yourself to see if you're going to change and respond differently, even if that gets triggered
那么，你就是在测试自己，看清自己：在被触发的情况下，你是否将做出改变，并以不同的方式做出应对
But the first step toward getting around that is to not deny or resist that it came up, but to acknowledge that you chose it
但要“绕过”这些“测试”，你需要做的第一步，并不是否认或者抗拒，而是承认：你选择让这种情况发生
Because by acknowledging that you chose to experience lack of self-worth again that keeps you in the seat of self empowerment to be able to explore it and do something about changing it
因为，当你承认“自己再次选择体验自我价值的缺失”，那你就稳坐“自我赋能的席位”，让自己有能力探查情况，并做些能带来改变的事情
And with enough practice, you will get used to the idea that you no longer need to do that
这样的练习做得足够多了，你就会渐渐习惯不需要这样的“测试”
Because you will finally hone the skill of owning whatever comes up instead of resisting whatever comes up
因为，你已经游刃有余，能够“接受”任何发生的事，而不再对它们有所“抗拒”
Because remember,
因为，请记住：
It's not about what you experience in terms of what happens.
发生了什么，你经历了什么，这些都无关紧要
It's about what you do with that experience
真正重要的是，你做了什么
that makes the difference in your world.
只有这，才会给你的世界带来改变
So the first step always is to never deny or resist what happens. But to own it as something that can serve you in a positive way to know that there's a reason that it's there
因此，第一步：永远不要否认或者抗拒已然发生的事，而是接受它，告诉自己：它的发生，是有某个原因的，并将带给你积极正面的助益
And that puts you back in the driver seat and gives you the self empowerment and the control to explore in a more positive creative and inspirational way and to actually have some fun with exploring why you would have chosen to trigger yourself in that way
这样，你就坐回了“驾驶座”，获得掌控局面的能力，并可以更积极正面、更有创造性、更鼓舞人心地，甚至有点乐子地，去探索你为什么：会选择触发自己吸引来这种境况
And then more answers will come up more ideas will surface
然后，你脑中就会冒出更多的答案，涌现出更多的“奇思妙想”
And you'll be on a different journey with that experience at that moment.
而在那一刻，你也将踏上不同的旅程
So owning it and not resisting it is the first step.
所以，你需要做的第一步，就是：接受，而不是抗拒
问：
OK! That's very helpful.
好的！非常有帮助！
《臣服与允许》
https://v.qq.com/x/page/y0178idd2sp.html
问：
One is what you just addressed, and the word surrender that comes to mind
你刚才解说的“允许”，让我想起了“臣服”
巴夏：
Surrender is actually allowing control
臣服，其实就是，允许（真我来）控制
Because you're already in control
因为，一切都在你的掌控之中
When you believe you have to make things happen, force things happen instead of allowing them to
当你认为你必须让事情发生，强迫事情发生，而不是允许它们自然发生
You actually believe
你其实是认为：
you are not in control
“你没法控制”
That things won't work automatically
“事情不会自行运作”
That your life is out of balance.
“生活已经失衡”
But when you surrender, you are actually giving over to the fact that things are already perfectly under control.
而当你臣服了，你是将自己交托出去，相信一切都在掌控之中，一切都在完美运作
问：
And the conscious surrender, or deliberate surrender
有意识地臣服，或者说，故意地臣服
巴夏：
Yes!
是滴！
问：
I feel like I still want to keep some control so what I
我感觉，我还是想在生活中，能控制一些东西
巴夏：
You have control.
你是在控制啊
That's what we're saying
我们说的是，你怎么控制
问：
So to place my focus on the three As, basically what you talked about on Acknowledging, on Appreciating, on Allowing
将我们的焦点，转回你刚才说的三个 A 步骤：认可、赞赏、允许
gives me a sense of control that I can focuse on something
这让我将注意力集中在某些方面，这给我一种“我是在控制”的感觉
巴夏：
That's why we designed it that way
这我们为你们定制的
Because we understand what your physical mind wants,
因为我们很清楚，你们脑袋要的是什么
And therefore by giving it the steering wheel
于是，给了你们脑袋“方向盘”
It thinks it has, it will allow you to relax
你脑袋握着方向盘，转转乐，那它就会让你放轻松
Into truly allowing the real control to automatically work
这样的话，真正在控制的、那部分的“你”，便能自动顺畅运作
While the physical mind's ego is going
而你们的头脑中的小我，便想：
Oh yes I'm driving the car,
“哈哈！我在开车车！”
But what it doesn't know is that steering wheel isn't really connected to anything
但小我不知道的是：方向盘的连接轴，并没有跟车连在一起
That's why we create these permission slips,
这就是我们分享这些“自我意识许可”的原因
Many times we create these permission slips, not necessarily because the permission slip itself is necessary for the thing to work,
很多时候，我们创建这些“自我意识许可”，不一定是因为，它们能够让事情运作
But so that it occupies your physical mind
而是，要让你的脑袋关注在它们身上（比如水晶、冥想）
So that you can allow things to work
这样你就可以允许一切，自然运作（神的大能在做工）
问：
Okay. Perfect!
很棒！堪称完美！
Occupying the physical mind, I feel like I have accepted it
让我的脑袋，有东西可抓，这点我也认可
a long time ago, I have what I say is a big ego,
在很久以前，我的小我很大
And I like to think about things and I like to focus,
我也喜欢关注在某事上，想些东西
So it's important for me to give my mind something to chew on
所以，给我脑袋一点东西，让它可以慢慢“咀嚼”，这对我很重要
that actually feels good.
而且，让我感觉很好！
巴夏：
Yes!
对的！
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