When you love someone unconditionally.
It doesn't mean that you have to agree with what they believe
It just means you support them in their choice to believe that for now
Because you know that that's what they need in their process
That's unconditional love.
It doesn't mean that you simply have to do everything someone else does
Unconditional Love is all it takes to trust all the relationships in the way they happen and with whom they happen.
The idea is to be a shining and bright transparent crystal.
When you are a shining and bright transparent crystal, then nothing impedes the flow of your radiant light, so that others may be served by it.
When you are a transparent crystal, the light from other individuals passes through you, except for the light you choose to absorb.
Other individuals' negative light therefore cannot possibly affect you, unless you choose to become opaque and absorbent to it.
Remember that, when you operate on a particular frequency, even if another individual has a negative intention towards you, you will translate their energy into positive manifestation in your life.
That effect is the gift of Unconditional Love.
The word is quite literal in meaning: unconditional love.
Therefore, now you can involve yourself in relationships to the full capacity of your curiosity and excitement.
Since you now know every single individual is a being of vision and creativity
you can support them in the following way:
encourage them to do in their life with integrity the thing that excites them the most.
Support them in their ability to be able to do that thing.
To create loving and creative relationships you can create for their situations that will allow them to become more fulfilled in the thing that excites them the most.
You can be aware of things that would excite them and let them know about it.
You can give them gifts that are particularly important to the thing that allows them to become more excited about what it is they enjoy,
because you are in the relationship to serve them to become most fully who it is they are excited about being.
And if the other individuals do not allow fear into their lives, they will become just as supportive of you as well.
You will not have to see the idea that you are each becoming strong individuals as something that pushes you away from each other.
The only reason that happens now in your society is because you are so interdependent on each other.
You say, "If you become stronger than I am, you won't have anyone to lean on. "
But the point is not to lean on anyone, the point is to support them.
And in supporting them—you become supported.
The notion of "leaning on each other" is simply the negative side; the interdependency is the negative side of supporting each other.
The "need" for the other person is the negative side in the sense that "you cannot exist without them. "
But you see, the paradox is that as soon as it's all right for them to become as fully an individual as they are, you will probably remain in contact forever.
The idea that you must mold them in a certain way in order to remain in the relationship is not trusting what the relationship is.