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Bashar, I'm having a very difficult personal relationship.
What lessons am I supposed to be learning from this?
What have you learned about yourself so far? What have you learned about what you do prefer and what you don't?
I learned that I don't like unhappiness and difficulty.
Oh, alright. Will you decide to make changes that are more in line with what you prefer?
Will you stand up for who you know you are?
Will you allow changes to occur trusting that when you change in the direction you prefer you will always attract other individuals who will be more representative of the changes you have made within and that it won't matter whether you are dealing with the same individual or not?
你是否允许（外在世界的）改变，并且相信：当你朝着你所喜欢的方向改变，你总会吸引一些更能代表 “ 你内在的改变 ” 的人，不论这样的人是你原先关系中的人，还是其他一些人？
Are you sure?
What else have you learned by being in this relationship?
And may I also ask you, what are you defining as difficulty?
Take your time.
We don't see eye to eye on anything.
Alright. So you prefer one idea, one expression. That individual prefers another idea, another expression.
So what is difficult about this?
It doesn't make for harmonious living.
Alright. So what's so difficult about that?
The idea is that this individual is giving you an opportunity to decide what you prefer.
If you recognize that what they prefer is not what you prefer, move on.
What's difficult about this?
It's not after you've explained it.
Then the next time you feel that you are in a difficult situation, explain it to yourself.
Then you will know that you also have the ability to transform "difficulty" into something you prefer it to be. Understand?
然后，你就会知道 你有能力将困难转化为某些你所喜欢的东西，你能够化腐朽为神奇，化干戈为玉帛，化不可能为可能，谈笑间强弩灰飞烟灭，大方无欲，大道无形，行者无彊，较长河为酥酪，变大地为黄金 ……
I do not wish in any way, shape or form to make light of the situation. I am not making light of your feelings or all the experiences that you go through but it really is this simple. Honest. It really is.
The idea is that loving them truly is really being willing to let them be who they really want to be, who they are choosing to be and at the same time choosing what you prefer.
要知道，真正的爱的方式，是允许对方 “ 是 ” 他们想 “ 是 ” 的，允许他们选择他们所选择的，同时，选择你自己所喜欢的。
That's true love.
Sometimes the kindest and most loving thing you can do for another individual is let them find who they would really rather be with.
有时候，你能为对方做的最有爱、最体贴、最友善、最宽容、最 …… 的事，就是让对方找到 Ta 真正想要一起生活的人。
Does that help you?
Yes, it does. I love what you said about guilt. What was it? Being the opposite of...?
问：是的。你对 “ 愧疚 ” 的解答我很喜欢。你怎么说来着？是什么的反面？
Of love. Great. Thanks.