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Sometimes, the lack of belief in one’s self can go on for quite some time before a life-changing situation comes along and forces change to happen. Having a lack of belief in your abilities can be a major contributing factor in many endeavours you are trying to either implement or complete to not being successful. By not believing in your whole self as a person who is capable of many great things, you put a great strain on pursuing a fulfilling career, sustaining meaningful relationships and even create great difficulty on trying to meet certain spiritual quests. When you don’t think you can, you may go from one good habit to another, never sticking with one long enough to enforce it with discipline to make it work better. It is important to be assertive in life, but without being aggressive. This means becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable, pushing beyond your comfort zones and embracing bravely what is new and good. Change isn’t all bad. Without change, you would have little growth and would not see your own personal potential or experience the strength you’ve always had, just never bothered utilizing.

有时候，自信的缺乏会持续一段时间，在一个改变生活的情况出现并迫使改变发生前。对自己能力信任的缺乏会是你许多试图实施或完成但没有成功的努力中一个重要的关键因素。通过不相信你整体的自我作为一个有能力做到许多伟大之事的人，你把一个巨大的压力放在追求一个令人满意的职业上，维持有意义的人际关系，甚至创造巨大的困难来试图满足特定的精神追求。当你不认为你可以，你会从一个好习惯到达另一个，永远不要坚守一个太长时间来伴随着纪律实施它以便让它更加奏效。在生活中坚定而不咄咄逼人是很重要的。这意味着变得对不适感到舒适，超越你的舒适地带，勇敢地拥抱新的和好的。改变并不全是坏的。没有了改变，只会有很少的成长，无法看到你的潜能或体验你总是持有的力量（只是不屑使用）。

No matter how self-assured a person may be, they are never perfect at being positive all the time 24/7. Doubt will creep in, like a pesky weed that you think you got rid of that suddenly reappears somewhere else when you’re not looking. You can become more self-assured and less doubtful when you accept any of the mistakes that you have made as stepping stones towards success. Each mistake made, provides you with a fresh opportunity to try again, but by making different choices that will direct you to different outcomes. And as you are meandering along, just imagine how much more insightful and knowledgeable of yourself and the world around you, you will become. You are more incredible than you give yourself credit for.

无论一个人多么地自信，他们永远无法在时时刻刻保持积极。怀疑会嵌入，就像一棵讨厌的杂草，你认为已经除掉了，突然又出现在某个地方，当你没有注意到。你可以变得更加自信和更少地怀疑，当你接纳任何所犯的错误为朝向成功的垫脚石。每一个错误，提供了你新的机遇去再次尝试，但是通过做出不同的选择---会指引你不同的结果。随着你漫步，想象有多少关于你和周围世界的洞见与知识，你会成为。你比你相信的更加惊人

Remember, not everyone is perfect all of the time. And we are not encouraging perfection because with perfection there is no growth, there is no pushing beyond comfort zones. What we are encouraging is you to become more complete and whole in all you do and how you think of yourself. When you are able to greet life maturely in your intellect and in your emotions, you understand that not everyone will return the gratitude and compassion you give because you give unconditionally and realize everyone is at different levels of acceptance and understanding and that growth comes at different stages for all people.

记住，不是人人在时时刻刻都是完美的。我们并不是鼓励完美，因为完美就没有成长，没有超越舒适地带。我们鼓励你去变得更加完整，在你所做的一切以及对自己的看法之中。当你可以自动地在智力和情感上成熟地迎接生活，你明白不是每个人会回报你付出的感激和慈悲，因为你无条件地付出并意识到每个人处于不同的接纳和理解层面，成长会在不同的阶段到来

Being of a mature mind enables you to not take everything personally and to not judge others simply by their appearance or even by their current demeanor. Until you’ve walked in their shoes, you have absolutely no right to judge or criticize them. You don’t know what personal horrors they may have dealt with by the time they crossed your path. Realizing that other people are also striving to surpass doubt and uncertainty will jog your memory that you are more connected than you realize. Even if what you have to go through every day is different, the fact that you must persevere trials and tribulations daily that are challenging and on the verge of being difficult brings you closer to others by understanding that even life can be painful, it can also be joy-filled and fulfilling. This knowing that is deep and profound is what will draw you closer to people and be not only sympathetic but empathetic.

成熟的心智会让你不感情用事，不会评外表评判他人或根据他们当前的风度。直到你穿上他们的鞋子，你没有权利评判或批评他们。你不知道他们在处理的可怕之事，在他们穿过你道路的时刻。意识到别人也在努力超越怀疑和不确定性---会唤起你的忆起，你比你意识到的更加连接。即使你必须通过的每一天是不同的，你必须每天在艰辛和苦难中坚持以及处于困难边缘的事实让你更加接近他人，通过明白即使是生活是痛苦的，它也可以是充满喜悦和令人满足的。这个知晓是深刻和深远的，会让你更亲近人，不仅富有同情心还善解人意

So many dear souls are directed each day by fear; fear of making a mistake, fear of people not agreeing with them, or fear of not being accepted by their peers. These fears are only negative if you think of them as such. What they are, are positive reinforcements and reminders that you are surrounded by growth and development opportunities. If you have made a mistake, learn what your error was and improve upon it; if people are arguing with you or are disagreeing with you, take the time to backtrack to when your discussion became heated and you’ll get your answer; if you think you are not being accepted by your peers, that could be an indication you need to be working more on your inner self, discovering who you are and to be your real self at every opportunity. Where you see a negative, there is also a positive, and something to grow from.

非常多的灵魂每天被恐惧所引导；恐惧做出选择，恐惧人们不同意他们，或恐惧不被同龄人接纳。这些恐惧只在你认为他们是消极的时候才是消极的。它们是什么，是积极的强化和提醒，你被成长和发展的机遇所围绕。如果你犯错，明白错误是什么，改进它；如果人们与你争论或不同意你，花些时间回溯你们的讨论变得激烈的时刻，你会得到你的答案；如果你认为你不被同龄人所接纳，这可能是一个迹象你需要更多地致力于内在自我，发现你的所是，在每个机遇成为你真正的自己。你看到消极的地方，有着积极和成长的东西

Mistakes of any kind offer bits and pieces of feedback. Sometimes you don’t realize how far you’ve gone until you meet a bump along the way and become frustrated over it. Every bump is your opportunity to smooth things out by looking at what has transpired thus far and how you can improve on each step. There is nothing that you have done that was a mistake or accident. Everything has a purpose. Sometimes it just takes some time to go over a situation or incident and realize the truth underneath all the overwrought emotions and feelings that often block what is really there.

任何类型的错误提供了零星的成果。有时候你并未意识到你走了多远，直到你遇到了一个颠簸，变得沮丧。每一个颠簸都是你的机遇去平稳事物，通过看看至今为止发生了什么以及你如何在每一步改善。没有一个你所做的事情是错误或意外。一切都有着一个目的。有时候只是需要一些时间去审视情况或事件并意识到所有过激情绪和感受（经常阻碍真正在那里的东西）之下的真理。

We understand that it can be frightening to embrace what you are afraid of. We are sure great people such as Martin Luther King Jr, Gandhi and others like these were afraid when defending what they believed in, working on projects that was of importance to them that helps others around them. They could not predict how the people would react, they just knew they had to persevere and keep following the drawing of their heart. The things you are afraid of trying are the very things that are most necessary. Embrace your fears, allow them to guide you and to enlighten you, to make you more aware of yourself and what you can accomplish when you truly try with all your heart and soul in every step.

我们知道这会是吓人的，去拥抱你所害怕的。我们相信伟大的人比如马丁路德金等等在捍卫他们所相信的并致力于对他们来说很重要有助于他人的东西时也是害怕的。他们无法预测人们会作何反应，他们只是知道他们必须坚持，继续跟随心的指引。你害怕尝试的东西正是最需要的东西。拥抱你的恐惧，让它们指引你，开导你，让你更加了解自己以及你可以完成什么，当你真正全身心地尝试

You can become better at being less doubtful and more of a believer of yourself. You do this by practicing daily to push beyond something you find discomforting which will expand your level of discomfort. In addition, stop worrying about what others are doing or thinking, be you. If you are coming from your authentic person and you accept who you are, then you will attract others that are of the same mindset. Take the time to explore different coping strategies that help get you through self-doubt and moments you lack self-confidence and stick to them. Build up a reservoir of trust in yourself and in your own abilities. Before going into a situation know as much as you can beforehand and regardless how things pan out be okay with the outcome. You can’t avoid mistakes by not taking chances.

你会变得不怎么怀疑，更多地相信自己。你通过每天练习超越你发现不舒服的东西（会扩张你的不适）来做到。此外，不再担心他人在干嘛或怎么想的，做自己。如果你来自真正的自己，你接纳你的所是，那么你就会吸引相同心态的人。花时间去探索不同的应对策略，有助于让你通过自我怀疑以及缺乏自信的时刻并坚持下去。建立一个相信自己和自身能力的水库。在进入一个情况前事前尽可能多地了解，无论结果如何，对结果感到满意。通过不冒险是无法避免犯错的

Mistakes come when they come. Learning is never-ending and before you can provide a comment to something, know and understand what you are talking about first. Remember it is okay to make a mistake, sometimes you will make the same mistakes repeatedly until you learn what not to do by recognizing the signs that you have fallen into a repetitive cycle. As you become more familiar with yourself at various intervals and stages of development you will come to realize that you are much stronger and more capable than you once thought. You have tolerated so much in the past and look how much you have grown since then. Allow your past experiences to remind you of how far you have come and be empowered and inspired to continue growing and developing. You will discover more of your true, natural self and reach the conclusion that you have always been great, all you need to do is believe this every time a trying event crosses your path.

错误到来，当它到来。学习没有止境，在你可以提供一个评论前，先晓和明白你所要讲的。记住犯错是可以的，有时候你会不断地犯同一个错误直到你学会不该做什么，通过认识到你已经陷入循环的迹象。随着你在不同的间隔和发展阶段更多地熟悉自己，你会意识到你比你认为的更加强大和有能力。在过去你已经容忍了那么多，看看从那时起你成长了多少。让你过去的体验提醒你你走了多远，被授权和激励去继续成长与发展。你会发现更多真正、自然的自己，到达你总是极好的结论，你所需要做的就是相信此时此刻一个尝试事件穿过你的道路

You will get through anything and everything simply because you have done so before. So turn that sigh around into an enthusiastic smile and rejoice in new directions that are there not to scare you, but to help further develop who you are from the inside out.

你会通过一切，就是因为你已经完成了如此之多。所以把叹气转变成一个热情的微笑，在新的方向中欢喜，它不会吓到你而是进一步地帮助你从内向外地发展你的所是

原文：http://lightworkers.org/channeling/210811/turning-negatives-positives通灵：Julie Miller

翻译：Nick Chan